Is it just me, or does it seem that more and more every day, people just HATE each other for no good reason? I mean some could argue and say it’s always been there, and it’s just more exposed with the booming of the internet, but I don’t know, that seems to be a lame cop-out of an answer.
I remember growing up and getting bullied for being overweight. I remember them even teasing me for being really smart in class, and it even led to me dumbing myself down to be popular and accepted. But all of that was small potatoes, because at the end of the day, I came home, retreated to my room, did my homework, listened to music, and just escaped away into the adventures of Hannibal and the A-Team, the fancy antics from KITT on Knight Rider, and even went “Boldly Where No-one Had Gone Before,” with Star Trek The Next Generation, (they changed it to No-One from No Man when they rebooted the series, an obvious gift to recognize women, which was WAY before #MeToo was even a thought).
Anyway, the escapism helped a lot, and when I went to school the next day, all the kids basically forgot about the teasing and went on to laugh about farts, or the fact that my teacher wore her adult diapers to school and we all could see it when she sat down at her desk, (true story and funny as hell when you’re 11). The fact is we MOVED on, and honestly, even the meanest kids in school were amazingly forgiving. It can’t be my imagination because even with all my insecurities and shortcomings, kids had FUN back then together, with each other, and it carried on into high school.
I understand that my perception is different and everyone has their own bullying story, but if you are approaching your 40s like I am, you realize that we had a damn easy ride being a kid years ago. Even in a drug-infeseted, hooker on every corner, and gunshots firing in the streets ghetto like I lived in, (Brooklyn wasn’t fucking easy on people in the 80s), people didn’t HATE the way they do today.
There is something festering in our society, rotten to the core, and I can’t be the only one who sees it. I realize that A LOT of it has to do with the engrossing technology that is in our lives and the addiction to social media that so many have. Things are so EASY to access now, and we achieved such a monumental breakthrough in the way we communicate, so why have people begun to turn into such cruel, immoral, backstabbing, haters? How is that even possible? And with all these wonderful advances why is our President obsessed with Twitter, when we haven’t launched anyone into space since the 1960’s?
I can go on a rant about Trump, (even though I voted for him), but it seems that even he uses the “hate and attack” approach when dealing with everyone. And in return people fester and stew, and hate and attack him right back. I read somewhere that people actually took off their shoes and threw it at the screen when he talks on TV. WTF???????? Do you really hate the man THAT damn much? Do you even care about your TV? Honestly, throughout my lifetime presidents have come and gone, and even been hated, but NOT to that degree. But this “hate” tactic isn’t working, and its trickling down to our younger generation.
I read today that a 12 year-old girl shot up her Junior High. Seriously? In Junior High, I was getting butterflies because the cute boy in class noticed my dress. What the hell is going on? Kids are even committing suicide because they are so bullied and hated, and it spreads itself all over social media so that they feel they have no way out.
I can’t stress this enough, but this “hate” shit has got to stop. I know people have been screaming for “World Peace” since like the dawn of time, (especially in the 60s where everyone basically took drugs and fucked liked rabbits, Hello Baby Boomers!). But I am not talking about solving World Peace here, I am talking about the simple choice to not hate every damn thing, and every damn body in your life. It sounds simple, but I swear it’s not even that people CAN”T do it, they WON’T do it. Why be nice to your fellow neighbor when they have more shit than you and they show off because they are in a happy relationship? No! I am just gonna sit here and fester, hate on them on social media and basically try to break-up their happy life in subtle and sarcastic ways. “Aww, he dumped you? I am so sorry.” (Secretly celebrating, overjoyed that they are miserable and you got what you really wanted instead). Don’t you tell me people don’t do that shit, I know because I used to do it too.
Now I realize since I also participated in this bad behavior, (trolling on the internet, leaving nasty comments and secretly wishing unhappiness for my close friends), that this whole rant of a post is a bit hypocritical. The only difference is, I am actively choosing to change it, and I am investing my energy in myself and those who I love. Don’t judge me because I am going all “Kumbaya” on you, it took me nearly 40 years to get to this place, and honestly, I only got sucked into all that “hater” behavior in the past 10 years. What is other people’s excuse for being born and LIVING their whole LIFE in that shit?
I don’t have kids, so I am no one to lecture, but ever think about why everyone is REALLY so angry and it is spilling into our younger generation? Well, I hate to break it to you but when mommy is busy scolding her child for bullying someone because they are overweight, she is yelling to the TV going, “Kim Kardashian, ugh, you fat bitch, you don’t deserve shit, I hate you.”
Yeah, I think the gauntlet just dropped.
Fact of the matter is, my mother and father had their gripes about people, (my father is a total racist), but their remarks never imprinted on me the way that parents today influence their children and their behavior. I don’t even know why that is, maybe it was because it was a different time and even if there was dysfunction at home, there was no internet with “hate” shit splattered all over it. I mean even my TV didn’t have “hate” shit, that INCLUDES the News. I grew up in a time where news anchors like Tom Brokaw and Diane Sawyer did ground breaking news reports, not ten hours on why Trump is evil and something about a damn memo. God help me, but in my entire childhood I never watched a news program where they argued on the release of a fucking piece of paper for 24 hours straight. Then again, there was NO NEWS ON round the clock back then. That’s the problem right there, but that’s a whole different story.
All I know is, it isn’t what it used to be. People are meaner and angrier than ever at almost everything and everybody. And don’t tell me it has always been this way. Yeah, I agree, the world has never been all peaches and cream, but it NEVER used to be a place where 12 year olds shot up schools, and newsworthy stories were about fucking memos.
But this is the world we live in. I guess all I am asking is, that you think about it. You can’t change the world, but you can at least try to be less of an asshole to people, on the internet and in real life.
I know I am trying to make that change, but I am just one person.
Why not join me?